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We went to Dunkin’ Donuts on Saturday morning. I love donuts and not cooking breakfast on Saturdays but certainly Dunkin’ Donuts is NOT my favorite place. Long lines and bad service (they always forget something) and stomach aches and things like that. But Eric loves it and sometimes I try to put my selfishness aside and love him, so there we were. Rooney yelled “Donuts! Donuts!” the entire one-mile drive there (we would have rode our bikes but our stomachs were growling a little too loud already AND it was a tad chilly).

Anyway, we waited and waited and waited in line and then finally grabbed a seat by a window. (They forgot my juice, of course.)

We had a lovely time watching Rooney eat more munchkins than me. For some reason, watching her eat is one of my favorite things. Maybe because I remember the first time she ever ate, and we had so much trouble with breastfeeding that I still love seeing her get a good feeding. Is that weird?

We were having conversations about inside voices and patience and how this really was the last time she should wear that shirt because her belly is showing and pacis are only for nigh-nighs and we should listen to our tummies to tell us when we’re full. That’s the stage we’re in right now.

And I couldn’t help but notice that at the table across from us was a set of parents with their daughter just like us… except about 20 years in the future. Their daughter had a fiance, and they were talking about wedding registries and limos and those types of things. That’s the stage they’re in right now. I couldn’t help but picture that being us someday. We’ll no longer be in charge of switching over Roo’s wardrobe or teaching her what it means to be full or how to wait patiently in a line.

My life flashed before my eyes! And it reminded me of this passage I read in a book recently. I sadly don’t remember the book because I was in Barnes & Noble on my lunch break trying to get a quick parenting tip and opened up a book randomly to a page and took a photo. It said:

Keep in mind that parenting is a temporary job. You have been invested with trustee power while your child is growing up in your care. But gradually, as he becomes more able to take on responsibility, you should be handing the reins of his life over to him. The statement “I’ll always be your parent” is true in one sense, but not in another. You will always have that heritage, but you won’t always have that responsibility. Your goal is mutual affection between two adults, not a permanent one-up position.

Update: Thanks to Google, this excerpt is from Boundaries With Kids.

I’m not sure what the point of this post is (if there is a point), but sometimes I get really nervous that this toddler stage is going to flash by and we’ll miss it later on, and other times I daydream about the day she moves out of the house so we can have our house back to ourselves (disregarding the fact that we hope to have another child).

Oh motherhood…you are awesome, but you kick my butt daily.

the one about marriage

April 18, 2014 — 3 Comments

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A month ago, someone asked me if the first year of marriage is the hardest. He and his partner have been married for a year and a half and he was hoping I would say yes, the first year was the hardest. I cringed a little and told him that the first three-ish years were the hardest for us.

But I’ve thought about my answer since then, and I decided I would change what I said.

For us, there have not necessarily been entire years that were tough. The hardest parts of marriage to me, to us, have been times of transition and big changes.

Getting out of debt in year three was a really hard, as was having a baby (and dealing with postpartum depression) in year five. When one of us is having issues at work, that’s been really hard too. We’ve been there a few times. If there are any cracks in your marriage, these things add pressure to it and it will be magnified.

This is really scary as we think about starting a business at some point, and hopefully having another baby. It’s almost enough to make us stop dead in our tracks and try to keep everything the same forever. But we know that’s no good, either. Because here we are at year seven and a half, and things are really better than ever.

Web Gems // 36

April 18, 2014 — 2 Comments

So who watched the Parenthood season finale last night? I’m fully convinced it is the best show on television. I just LOVE it. I don’t want to give anything away if you haven’t seen it yet, but don’t look away from the screen for even a second because you will miss things. So much happened in an hour! I was personally so SO excited for that certain female character to come back. Also, this was the first time I haven’t cried during that show in a long time. I just can’t say good enough things about that show.

It’s Easter weekend (yay!), so my parents are coming down to stay with us and go to church. My mom put together a little Easter basket for Rooney and I don’t know if she or I am more excited that we will finally own the movie Frozen. You’ve seen it, right? We’ve been listening to the soundtrack nonstop for a few weeks now. I hope you have a great weekend!

Without further ado, here are five fun links I want to share!

  • My most popular Instagram from the past week
  • What a pretty, simple blog!
  • A lovely post on the “rules” of parenting a toddler
  • A beautiful post about motherhood

Cropped

April 15, 2014 — 4 Comments

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When: Wednesday, April 9, 2014

Outfit details:

Don’t I look like I’m heading to a music festival? I wish! During our college summers, Eric and I would drive four hours up to Willmar, Minn., for Sonshine Festival with a bunch of friends and hang out for the long weekend. These are truly some of my fondest memories and we’ve dreamed of taking Rooney (and any future child/ren) to the festival when she gets a little older.

My top memories are getting a flat tire on the Interstate on the way up, applying a full sleeve of temporary tattoos to our friend Joe’s arm, playing Ultimate Frisbee for an hour while Sanctus Real played in the background, camping near the main stage, and when they opened up the fire hydrants to cool everyone off (it is SO hot, hense the desire for crop tops).

P.S. I wore a two-piece lavender dress to prom my junior year. There were like five inches of midriff showing! I’m still not sure how my mom ever approved that.

Web Gems // 35

April 11, 2014 — Leave a comment

Hey guys! Happy Friday. We’re leaving in the morning for a weekend at my parents’ and Rooney is going to be SO excited when she finds out she gets to see her cousins. I’m sure we’ll watch Frozen at least once (and listen to the soundtrack the entire two-hour drive). I can’t hardly wait to see my friend Joa and finally meet her sweet baby girl, Ida. Do you guys have fun plans?!

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My favorite links from around the Web lately…

  • Which type of sick patient are you? I’m definitely #1 mixed with #6.
  • Does social media make us lonely?
  • Kristine wears such simple, beautiful outfits